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re: Feeling excluded and sad for not getting positive feedback - How should I react? VIEW POST

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How would you react in my situation?

Probably the same way as you. I think most of us can relate to this situation.

On the other hand, I'm also more likely to fall in the shoes of the other person these days, e.g. a busy manager. Sometimes when folks seem like they are self-reliant and are self-starters we forget they still need positive feedback. But instead we spend all our motivational energy in the places that need them more. The squeaky wheel gets the grease as they say.

Why don't you send a message or email like this...

Hey MANAGER,
I just wanted to bring up something small. I feel like since my work is more under the hood I don't get as much feedback or recognition at times compared to more product-oriented work. I'm motivated by positive feedback to know when I'm on the right track with my duties, so just a bit more consistent feedback would go a long way. Thanks a lot, let me know if this all makes sense.

I'd say you can be gentle and downplay it a bit in this first point of contact. I don't think you need to place much blame. If they can't be perceptive to this kind of thing I think you can treat it like a red flag, but there's a good chance you get a warm response and a slightly better effort going forward.

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