What I was trying to say is that maybe (at least in the case of the senior/junior issue) her colleagues did not mean to disrespect her at all! It can also be the case that she is working with a bunch of douchebags!
Sometimes people see critiques in what are in reality just constructive remarks!
For instance it is almost impossible to offend me... I just don't "feel it", whereas there are people who "feel it" a bit too much!
And again... I'm not saying the author of this post is one of those people... I don't know her to be able to tell... but as a GENERAL advise is always worth considering that maybe you are the one feeling disrespect when only constructive criticism was intended!
P.S.: I did not know the author was a woman till I saw the name in the answer to my first comment!
One of the most salient features of our Tech Hiring culture is that there is so much bullshit. Everyone knows this. Each of us contributes his share. But we tend to take the situation for granted.
What I was trying to say is that maybe (at least in the case of the senior/junior issue) her colleagues did not mean to disrespect her at all!
Oh I am pretty sure that was the case.
And I am also pretty sure you didn't mean to be disrepectful to her.
But I don't think that's the right question.
It is not about them and it's not about you.
Look, the author - whose sex you are not aware of - was not writing about
Top 10 things that a senior developer MUST do
She was writing about this very particular question
What to do if you are being disrespected and ignored?
Now try to listen to the subtext behind this.
What do you read?
Now, what's your experience about being disrespected and ignored?
Who is more likely to be unskilled and unaware of it on this topic?
And how would it feel to that particular author if someone took a random fight on an unimportant point where she was, in fact, probably right, and then assumed that she was wrong and insisted on not listening to nothing that she says?
"She was writing about this very particular question: What to do if you are being disrespected and ignored?"
This is worth examining. I've managed teams (again, not tech) for close to two decades now. One of the things I've noticed is that often people's perceptions of being "disrespected" is entirely wrongly placed. In the worst-case scenarios, which are unfortunately all too frequent, the person claiming to be bullied is actually the person doing the bullying and creating the same toxic environment they complain about.
Simply taking a complaint at face-value, and assuming the person making the accusation is automatically correct, is actually very dangerous ground. This is not "ignoring" anyone. It is accepting there will always be two sides to the story and both might have validity.
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What I was trying to say is that maybe (at least in the case of the senior/junior issue) her colleagues did not mean to disrespect her at all! It can also be the case that she is working with a bunch of douchebags!
Sometimes people see critiques in what are in reality just constructive remarks!
For instance it is almost impossible to offend me... I just don't "feel it", whereas there are people who "feel it" a bit too much!
And again... I'm not saying the author of this post is one of those people... I don't know her to be able to tell... but as a GENERAL advise is always worth considering that maybe you are the one feeling disrespect when only constructive criticism was intended!
P.S.: I did not know the author was a woman till I saw the name in the answer to my first comment!
Oh I am pretty sure that was the case.
And I am also pretty sure you didn't mean to be disrepectful to her.
But I don't think that's the right question.
It is not about them and it's not about you.
Look, the author - whose sex you are not aware of - was not writing about
She was writing about this very particular question
Now try to listen to the subtext behind this.
What do you read?
Now, what's your experience about being disrespected and ignored?
Who is more likely to be
unskilled and unaware of iton this topic?And how would it feel to that particular author if someone took a random fight on an unimportant point where she was, in fact, probably right, and then assumed that she was wrong and insisted on not listening to nothing that she says?
"She was writing about this very particular question: What to do if you are being disrespected and ignored?"
This is worth examining. I've managed teams (again, not tech) for close to two decades now. One of the things I've noticed is that often people's perceptions of being "disrespected" is entirely wrongly placed. In the worst-case scenarios, which are unfortunately all too frequent, the person claiming to be bullied is actually the person doing the bullying and creating the same toxic environment they complain about.
Simply taking a complaint at face-value, and assuming the person making the accusation is automatically correct, is actually very dangerous ground. This is not "ignoring" anyone. It is accepting there will always be two sides to the story and both might have validity.