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Abdul Qadir Luqman
Abdul Qadir Luqman

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Goodbye

So after 6 years, I’ve decided to say goodbye to programming. Why? You ask? I’ve been addicted to watching pornography. This has led too so many complications in my life and depression. I’ve tried quitting my addiction for years without succeeding. After so much pain, a councilor told me if I really want to quit, I need to apply militant measures. Meaning I have to get rid of all sources that fuel my addiction. My laptop and smartphone are the primary culprits. So I’ve decided to get away from these two by leaving them behind. Obviously, I can’t code without my laptop or the internet. Therefore coding has to go also. But hey, if that’s the price i need to pay for my freedom, so be it. Sorry if I’ve been so dramatic but i’m just saying it as it is. Thanks to dev community for all the help. Going into the future, I wish you all the best. You’ve been awesome. I’m out. 👋

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adir abargil

hi i might help you to find a solution i know a person with the same struggles that found better solution
email me: noreplayaaservices@gmail.com

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Rachel Soderberg

Best of luck to you! You are on a good course, and perhaps once you are more in control of it you will be able to return to coding. Goodbye is not always forever!

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Harleigh Abel

I m sorry to hear that. Best of luck to you. And congratulations for having the strength and bravery to make such a difficult decision.

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Mattia Astorino • Edited

I don't understand your decision. I respect it, but i can't understand it. It's like to say "I will not buy food anymore because i eat too much" 🤔

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Abdul Qadir Luqman

Only those who have suffered this addiction will understand

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Mattia Astorino

I don’t understand your solution. Not your addiction.

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Abdul Qadir Luqman

Food is a basic necessity of life, without which one may die. I’m sorry but technology although has made life easier in some ways isn’t a necessity of life. A lot of people live without the internet, laptops or a smartphone. Therefore your analogy of food in comparison to my decision to stay away from tech doesn’t hold up.

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Mattia Astorino

You should not compare food and technologies, but solution effect => problem.

I still can't understand. In 2018 you can do your work and be aware from what you don't want to see.

What about blocking sites and sources you don't want? Children at schools can learn how to use a computer without access to any porn sites. What about working offline?

Laptop and smartphones are not the only way to access such content, you can even do it with the pay tv, you can buy porn dvds if you want.. i just think that your solution is not entirely related with the problem.

Even masturbation can be an addiction, cutting the penis is not a solution. By cutting out technology i think your are not working on the cause. This is just my opinion and i keep respecting your decision. Good luck.

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Rifai Martin • Edited

I suggest that you install the rewire companion application, there are many people who experience problems like you, maybe you can get friends there, so don't be shy ... to get better, because you need to sacrifice

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Abdul Qadir Luqman

Thanks for your suggestion 🙏

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Patrick Tingen

Hi Abdul, good that you fight your addiction, I sure wish you all the best, but just out of curiosity: are you going to drop your phone too or switch to a dumb phone?

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Abdul Qadir Luqman

I’m going to switch to a flip phone. Anyway thanks for asking

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jan paul

This is definitely, by far, the strangest thing i ever saw here on dev.to

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Abdul Qadir Luqman

I know it sounds strange but very very real

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Mike Miller

Classic case of Too Much Information

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Kasey Speakman

I also want to express my support. I applaud your courage to share and to take action. You might not feel this way due to your struggles, but the world needs more people like you.

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Abdul Qadir Luqman

Thanks for the encouragement 😢🙏

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Destiny Ajakaiye • Edited

It is very rear to find this kind of courage that you've display.

I wish you all the best in going back to your first love and I do hope that one day you would return back to programming.

Good luck Abdul

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Abdul Qadir Luqman

Thanks man

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JD Gonzales

Man, good luck to you. That's a hard thing to try to stop and it took me years and multiple layers of safe guards in place to get away from it, but the urge never goes away 100%. It messes with your mind, relationships, views of other people. Hope things pan out in whatever field you go into. This is something to definitely be proud of.

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Abdul Qadir Luqman

Thanks senior. I’m happy someone who really understands this struggle appreciates my decision