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Discussion on: The Programmer's Guide to Pairing on Pregnancy

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Ry Whittington

One thing I'd add to your list would be to find a support group after the pregnancy (either separately or together). Our local hospital hosts a breast feeding support group once a week, and I had to drag my wife there initially. She was hooked the first visit. It gives you a chance to be around people who are going through the same struggles that you are so everyone can relate to how you feel/look/smell. She turned it into a really nice weekly routine that had countless benefits.

We developed a really solid support network from the people she met there. All of our kids are now growing up together, we get people to complain to people who can relate, we have people to get advice and recommendations from, and most important is the huge call list of baby-sitters we now have.

The network that you'll develop here will be extra important if you don't have family that lives near you.

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Schneems

Totally. We had access to our Doula who was a certified lactation consultant and the Doula collective (called Austin Born) has a facebook group that was helpful. We also did something a bit unusual and had our parents stay with us for the first year to take care of the kiddo. We alternated her parent's and my parents. It worked surprisingly well and we didn't kill one another.