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How I Learned to Let Go — and Why It Was the Best Decision I Made for My Business

I’m a difficult client.
I’ve always been like that.

When a professional comes to my house — a technician, an exterminator, an installer — I already know what the problem is.
When my washing machine stopped spinning, I was sure a sock was stuck in the pump.
When I hired a pest control expert, I already knew exactly where to spray — the drains, the pipes, the right spots.

It’s not disrespect.
It’s just who I am. I research, I ask questions, I learn, and I don’t like being dependent on anyone.

Many professionals get frustrated with me.
They feel I don’t trust them — and honestly, they’re right. Trust doesn’t come easily to me.

Then it was time to build a new website

I run a small business focused on glass printing.
I knew that a proper website and visibility on Google weren’t optional — they were essential.

But when I started hearing about the costs —
website development, SEO, ongoing work — tens of thousands per year —
I asked myself a simple question:

How can I trust someone in a field I don’t truly understand?

So I did what I always do.
I went into forums, read, asked questions, and researched.

For about a month, I learned:

what a website really is

what WordPress is

what hosting and servers mean

how a website should be built

and what SEO is in theory (not execution)

I spoke with several SEO professionals who claimed to be “experts.”
Already in the first conversation, things felt off.
Every explanation raised more questions.
Every solution triggered doubt.

I felt I knew more — or at least that I wasn’t getting deep, honest answers.

Then something changed

One day, I came across a YouTube series about CapCut.
The instructor explained everything from scratch — how to download it, how to install it, how to use it —
step by step, patiently, without shortcuts.

That caught my attention.

Somehow — probably algorithms or cookies —
I later came across the same person explaining SEO.

I visited his website.
It was full of detailed case studies.
No buzzwords.
No empty promises.
Just process, reasoning, and transparency.

That’s when I realized this was different.

I reached out to him — Izzik Fayzak.

A two-hour conversation that changed my mindset

We talked for almost two hours.
Yes — two full hours.

I asked everything. I challenged everything.
And Izzik answered every question — calmly, with examples, without defensiveness.

At some point, something rare happened to me:
I realized that I didn’t really understand this field at all.

Not in a bad way.
But in the sense that I was clearly speaking with someone whose knowledge went far deeper than mine.

What made me feel truly comfortable was this:
He wasn’t threatened by my questions.
He never made me feel like I was annoying or distrusting him.

He kept answering — until I was the one who got tired.

The hardest condition for me to accept

When I decided to move forward and let him build the website,
Izzik had one condition.

A big one.

“You don’t interfere.”

What do you mean I don’t interfere?
It’s my website.

He explained it simply:
If you want real results, you have to let me do what I know how to do.
Even if sometimes it looks wrong to you, unusual, or even frustrating.

This is my expertise.

For someone like me,
letting go of control was the hardest part.

And what happened in the end?

The website went live.
The work was done quietly — no hype, no promises.

Then slowly, things started to move.
Traffic.
Inquiries.
And Google.

Today, my website appears on the first page of Google,
in a very strong position
for the most competitive keyword in my niche:

“Glass printing.”

What did I learn from all this?

I didn’t become an SEO expert.
I didn’t master the technical side.

I learned something more important:

Sometimes, true professionalism
is knowing when to stop controlling
and start trusting.

And that’s not easy —
especially for people like me.

But in this case,
it was the best decision I made for my business.
If you’re curious about the personal side of this process and the internal struggle of letting go of control,
I shared a short reflection in a separate post here.

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