Compassion will lead to better code.
We all should be aware that we are all noobs. We are all proceses. We fail, we grow. This is something we encourage.
If shame is something that an individual feels, then calling it 'our code' won't change the fact that the individual knows it is his/her attribution that is subject of the current conversation. Feeling shameless can only happen when people aren't shaming or bashing co-workers.
Using 'we' or 'your' does not change the fact that something happened that needs attention. I think that we should always try to be friendly and show compassion, knowing that nobody is perfect.
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