Blame and shame culture at a workplace serves no one. We share our successes and blames as a team and support those that need to learn more to improve.
I get down on myself sometimes too much, but at the same time, can point out a toxicity that is encouraged to put too much empahasis on competition with others instead of with yourself to improve yourself for a team.
I have thought about work or a bug at 3am but I didn't get up to work on it. It can wait until tomorrow.
Having a supportive workplace can suss out this sort of behaviour and help you not do this (I'm reading that the 3am bug wasn't an emergency but you worried and couldn't sleep). I sense there is residual feelings from the blame and shame place that may create this action. Sounds like that place is in the past. Easier said than done, I know.
I've quit a job where I just simply wasn't supported. Then again, I don't think I was that special there but I didn't like the feeling so I went elsewhere and promised to myself I wouldn't do that to myself again.
Yeah I'm good thanks Kat, hope you are too. That job I quit was back in 2009, and I've had lots of good work experiences since then, so not much residual feelings left from that. I've had a couple of slightly iffy workplaces in the past, and they were valuable for recognizing certain things to avoid. A certain swagger that management had, that I've learned to recognize.
For me, current anxieties are a combination of being an immigrant with a small child to care for, working remotely for clients I've never even met, that creates a perfect combo of insecurities that seem to peak in the late evening. And then the next morning it's all sweet again, it's nuts. But I reckon I've got this thing wired now, with a bit of help from a cognitive psych therapist.
I'm sure this is a very common thing with remote developers.
Though I think I'd better get off my butt and start networking, going to more conventions, meetups etc, because a purely remote connection with other developers just feels way to virtual!
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Blame and shame culture at a workplace serves no one. We share our successes and blames as a team and support those that need to learn more to improve.
I get down on myself sometimes too much, but at the same time, can point out a toxicity that is encouraged to put too much empahasis on competition with others instead of with yourself to improve yourself for a team.
I have thought about work or a bug at 3am but I didn't get up to work on it. It can wait until tomorrow.
Having a supportive workplace can suss out this sort of behaviour and help you not do this (I'm reading that the 3am bug wasn't an emergency but you worried and couldn't sleep). I sense there is residual feelings from the blame and shame place that may create this action. Sounds like that place is in the past. Easier said than done, I know.
I've quit a job where I just simply wasn't supported. Then again, I don't think I was that special there but I didn't like the feeling so I went elsewhere and promised to myself I wouldn't do that to myself again.
I hope you are doing well.
Yeah I'm good thanks Kat, hope you are too. That job I quit was back in 2009, and I've had lots of good work experiences since then, so not much residual feelings left from that. I've had a couple of slightly iffy workplaces in the past, and they were valuable for recognizing certain things to avoid. A certain swagger that management had, that I've learned to recognize.
For me, current anxieties are a combination of being an immigrant with a small child to care for, working remotely for clients I've never even met, that creates a perfect combo of insecurities that seem to peak in the late evening. And then the next morning it's all sweet again, it's nuts. But I reckon I've got this thing wired now, with a bit of help from a cognitive psych therapist.
I'm sure this is a very common thing with remote developers.
Though I think I'd better get off my butt and start networking, going to more conventions, meetups etc, because a purely remote connection with other developers just feels way to virtual!