"Are you sure? He's such a nice guy. I've known him for years and he'd never do anything like that."
This isn't a workplace experience, but its the same fundamental issue and hits close to home:
One time, my neighbor grabbed my face and tried to kiss me. He didn't succeed because I pushed him away, and he literally ran out of the room. My boyfriend didn't believe me and thought I must have 'misinterpreted' my neighbors actions. He's such a nice guy, and he's my friend. The next day, my neighbor apologized to my boyfriend (not to me, might I add), and that's when he finally believed me.
I really hope it doesn't take experiences like this for the 'good guys' to finally 'get it.'
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YES, default to believing them.
This isn't a workplace experience, but its the same fundamental issue and hits close to home:
One time, my neighbor grabbed my face and tried to kiss me. He didn't succeed because I pushed him away, and he literally ran out of the room. My boyfriend didn't believe me and thought I must have 'misinterpreted' my neighbors actions. He's such a nice guy, and he's my friend. The next day, my neighbor apologized to my boyfriend (not to me, might I add), and that's when he finally believed me.
I really hope it doesn't take experiences like this for the 'good guys' to finally 'get it.'