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Discussion on: An Organizer's Guide to Pronoun Buttons

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Lukas Lotz

To be honest, do what you want and wear buttons and stuff, but don't expect others to be interested in it, pay attention to it, or even pay for it.

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Josh Symonds

No one is requiring you to be respectful of others. It's just a kind thing to do. If you don't want to be respectful no one is forcing you, but I think that says more about you than anyone else.

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jess unrein

I mean, if you’re an event organizer and you want to run an event that specifically disregards a portion of your attendees, that’s your prerogative. It’s a shitty thing to do, and I wouldn’t recommend it, but no one is stopping you. This guide is for people who care about running quality events that make a space for all its attendees so that everyone can focus on the important stuff: good code, excellent presentations, and networking. If that doesn’t describe you, cool. Good to know.

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Josh Symonds

How does it distract from anything? The article itself says wearing buttons are optional; if you don't want to wear one, don't, but making them available for people that want them just helps those people. How does it take any time for you to look at a table of buttons, think "no thanks," and move on with your life?

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Nicole

Names and personal connections at conferences and events are important. Are nametags and badges distracting? Are stickers and swag distracting?

If anything, it'd be super distracting to be at an event and constantly be misgendered or othered. Imagine how distracting it'd be to be at an event where people get your name wrong over and over again. Or imagine if you signed up to go to an event and the organizers didn't care enough to figure out if you had a dietary restriction -- it'd be pretty distracting to find out there's nothing you're able to eat for lunch and then scramble or go hungry for the event. Making accommodations for the people you're hosting is a key part of planning an event where people CAN focus on the subject matter at hand.

Also, if you don't care about what a person's pronouns are, why the resistance to using them?

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Fen Slattery

Thank you so much for this comment! As a trans person and a person with dietary restrictions that are hard to accommodate, I can totally confirm that it's hella distracting to deal with at events when organizers don't put in a little effort.