title: "The Programmer's Guide to Pairing on Pregnancy"
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date: 2017-06-07
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One thing I'd add to your list would be to find a support group after the pregnancy (either separately or together). Our local hospital hosts a breast feeding support group once a week, and I had to drag my wife there initially. She was hooked the first visit. It gives you a chance to be around people who are going through the same struggles that you are so everyone can relate to how you feel/look/smell. She turned it into a really nice weekly routine that had countless benefits.
We developed a really solid support network from the people she met there. All of our kids are now growing up together, we get people to complain to people who can relate, we have people to get advice and recommendations from, and most important is the huge call list of baby-sitters we now have.
The network that you'll develop here will be extra important if you don't have family that lives near you.
Totally. We had access to our Doula who was a certified lactation consultant and the Doula collective (called Austin Born) has a facebook group that was helpful. We also did something a bit unusual and had our parents stay with us for the first year to take care of the kiddo. We alternated her parent's and my parents. It worked surprisingly well and we didn't kill one another.
Yay!
And the more men step up and do this sort of thing- the less detrementing it'll be for lady programmers to ask for time off around the same thing. I'm scared for the day #2 comes along for this reason- my bosses in the past weren't understanding about my motherly responsibilities as they had stay at home wives and never had to deal with it. But your article is 100%, they should have been there!
//end rant
Also shameless plug: I built an app that's a pregnancy tracker on iOS and android : MrMom. It provides updates and baby and fun little tips that I felt were important during my #1 that would have been nice from a partner. But without all the graphic images that turn people off. 😊
Good luck with number two and congrats!!
After reading the title, I was worried someone came up with a new PregnancyJS framework... phew. Best wishes!
Ha! Thanks!
Good luck with the second little one!
Thanks! One of my friend's mothers made the comment in regards to the amount of work raising a kind takes: 1 is 1 but 2 is 10.
We're excited to find out 😉.