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Fredrick Oladipupo
Fredrick Oladipupo

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I couldn’t come up with a title

PS: This would skew more towards finding peace than loading up on aspiration/goals, and that’s a reflection of where I am in life. That may/may not apply to you, depending on where you are in your own journey.

  1. Most of what you see in life is a reflection of your own life. A simple thing like your neighbourhood can shape your whole perception of the world. But the truth is, that is not the world; that is just your world. The world is so much bigger than your little town or what the Twitter algorithm feeds you. That means 👇

  2. You live in a bubble. It is important to know this. For everything you know, there are a million things you don’t. For every feed you see on your social media, there is a billion you don’t know about. Your music playlist is a bubble. Your YouTube feed is a bubble. Your ideology is a bubble. The number of things you don’t know is so massive that there is no reason for you not to be humble. But that's okay because 👇

  3. Most things don’t matter; they seem like they are, but they are not. Stay grounded in things that truly matter. Unfortunately, I'm unable to disclose what those are. That's the irony of life. In the end, when the ocean rises, we have to paddle our canoes; no one is going to do that for us. That is why it is important you 👇

  4. Don’t major in minor things. A lot of things are important, but few are important to you. Even fewer should be important to you. Stay on those. Dedicate yourself to those.
    Minor time: Talking about doing it, writing about doing it, telling people about doing it, presenting how you are going to do it, researching about it, thinking about doing it.
    Major time: Doing it.

  5. Action is the bottleneck. When attempting a big goal, People often assume what they need is more information, more research, more talks, more thoughts, a new course, more bookmarked YouTube video links. Information is not the problem anymore. Almost everything you would want to know is on the internet. Most universities have open courses available on their website. Action is the new gold. People have access to more information than they know what to do with. We spent all the time collating information, while we ought to be taking action. Every dream has a cost in action, and that's why 👇

  6. The phrase You can be anything is a scam and a corporate ideology to get you to aspire for more, work for more, spend more, and keep the cycle going. You can’t be anything you want. This shouldn’t be surprising, by birth, you are already limited either by geography, genes, or family lineage. Comparing yourself to Elon Musk, Oprah, or a random person you saw their flashy life online is the gateway to misery. Focus on the step in front of you. Take that and then worry about the next one.

  7. Every dream/goal is a judge. Everything you want is something you lack. Logically, these would mean the higher the distance between your dreams and your current self is, the more miserable/unsatisfied you are with your current self. You have two options: be realistic with your goals or improve your current life faster.

  8. It’s okay to be Normal. Normal is actually where most people would end up based on several factors. Sometimes the hustle of fighting this is more hurtful than being Normal itself. Every goal/aspiration that is not backed up with the appropriate resources is a wish.

  9. Do not be afraid to try. Change of tone from the previous ones. But do not be afraid to break things. I have tried at least 4 businesses over the past 2 years. It doesn’t matter how much of it is successful; in the end, you only need one. Explore new things. Listen to music outside your playlist(I am listening to Terry Apala while writing this, I’m serious). Read outside your field. Ask uninteresting questions. Break patterns. Go outside your norms, even if just for the fun of it.

  10. Don’t live in isolation. Find love if you can, and embrace genuine friendship if you have one. At minimum, be at peace with your neighbour. Life is so much easier with the right people beside you. Sorry to say this, but your online friends/community is not the same. I couldn't care less about your number of followers if no one is there for you in your low moments.

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