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The 30 Questions Every Manager Should Ask in Their Next One-on-One

Most managers go into one-on-ones unprepared. They ask 'how's it going?' and leave it at that. Meanwhile, their best employees are silently checking out.

The one-on-one meeting is the highest-leverage conversation a manager has. It's where trust gets built, problems surface, and careers actually move forward.

Here's a master list of 30 questions to make every one-on-one count.

The 5P Framework

Before diving into specific questions, structure your 1:1s around five areas:

  1. Personal Check-in — How are they really doing?
  2. Progress Review — What got done since last time?
  3. Problems & Blockers — What's in their way?
  4. Planning & Priorities — What matters most next?
  5. Personal Development — Growth, career, aspirations

30 Questions That Actually Work

Personal Check-in (Questions 1-6)

  1. How are you feeling about work right now?
  2. What's the best part of your week so far?
  3. What's one thing that's been weighing on you?
  4. How's your work-life balance lately?
  5. Is there anything you need that you're not getting?
  6. How are you feeling about our team dynamics?

Progress Review (Questions 7-12)

  1. What's the one accomplishment you're most proud of this week?
  2. What did you learn this week that you didn't know before?
  3. What's one thing that exceeded your expectations?
  4. What's one thing you wish had gone differently?
  5. Are there any projects that got stuck or delayed?
  6. What's the most important thing you finished recently?

Problems & Blockers (Questions 13-18)

  1. What's the biggest obstacle in your way right now?
  2. Is there anything I can do to unblock you?
  3. Are there any resource constraints slowing you down?
  4. Is there a conflict with a coworker that's affecting your work?
  5. Are there any processes or tools that are wasting your time?
  6. Is there anything about how we communicate as a team that's not working?

Planning & Priorities (Questions 19-24)

  1. What's the most important thing you need to accomplish next week?
  2. What's one thing we should stop doing that's not adding value?
  3. If you could only accomplish one thing next week, what would it be?
  4. Are there any competing priorities that need to be sorted out?
  5. What support do you need from me to hit your goals?
  6. What's the biggest risk you see for next month?

Personal Development (Questions 25-30)

  1. Where do you want to be in 2 years? 5 years?
  2. What's one skill you want to develop right now?
  3. Who in the company would you like to learn from?
  4. What kind of feedback would be most helpful to you right now?
  5. Is there a project or area you'd like to take more ownership of?
  6. What's one career goal we haven't talked about enough?

Red Flags to Watch For

These signals suggest a 1:1 needs more attention:

  • The employee consistently deflects personal check-in questions
  • Same blockers appear week after week without resolution
  • Enthusiasm drops noticeably between meetings
  • You've gone more than 2 weeks without a 1:1
  • The employee is doing all the talking (or all the listening)

The Temperature Check

Once a month, ask this:

'On a scale of 1-10, how satisfied are you with our 1:1 meetings? What would make it a 10?'

This single question often surfaces issues before they become problems.


The best 1:1 system is the one you actually do consistently. Start with one small change: add one personal question to your next 1:1. Small consistent actions beat elaborate systems you never use.

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