DEV Community

Ali Spittel
Ali Spittel

Posted on

Nevertheless, Ali Coded

Trigger Warning: graphic sexual content, racism, sexual harassment

IMG-2277
IMG-1484
IMG-1557
IMG-1636
IMG-1969
IMG-2830
IMG-2888
IMG-2929
IMG-2940
IMG-2943
IMG-2996
IMG-3069
IMG-3401
IMG-3414
IMG-3452
IMG-3586
IMG-4659
Screen-Shot-2019-03-10-at-7-20-35-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-03-10-at-8-04-12-AM
Screen-Shot-2019-03-24-at-11-40-59-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-03-27-at-8-09-21-AM
Screen-Shot-2019-03-27-at-8-11-10-AM
Screen-Shot-2019-03-27-at-8-24-47-AM
Screen-Shot-2019-03-27-at-10-59-46-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-03-28-at-6-54-10-AM
Screen-Shot-2019-04-04-at-4-09-27-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-04-08-at-2-10-59-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-04-19-at-9-37-51-AM
Screen-Shot-2019-04-19-at-12-09-57-AM
Screen-Shot-2019-04-19-at-12-14-48-AM
Screen-Shot-2019-04-29-at-2-41-29-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-05-13-at-3-17-26-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-05-24-at-11-10-27-AM
Screen-Shot-2019-06-16-at-10-31-36-AM
Screen-Shot-2019-06-26-at-8-37-13-AM
Screen-Shot-2019-07-19-at-2-09-28-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-08-09-at-2-49-12-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-08-09-at-2-50-28-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-08-09-at-9-56-41-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-08-13-at-2-06-42-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-08-27-at-10-24-43-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-09-06-at-10-49-02-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-09-07-at-9-37-41-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-09-09-at-11-23-21-AM
Screen-Shot-2019-09-18-at-1-54-59-PM

Screen-Shot-2019-09-21-at-2-42-53-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-11-22-at-2-03-16-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-11-22-at-2-06-14-PM
Screen-Shot-2019-12-16-at-8-59-10-PM
Screen-Shot-2020-02-25-at-11-44-20-AM
Screen-Shot-2019-09-21-at-2-35-35-PM
Alt Text

Nevertheless, Ali coded. And wrote about it online.

last year's version of this post

Top comments (89)

Collapse
 
peter profile image
Peter Kim Frank

These messages are infuriating, disgusting, and awful.

I admire your strength for pushing on and inspiring so many others despite this constant stream of harassment. ๐Ÿ’œ

Thank you for sharing the ugly truth about what it means to be a prominent woman in tech. It's an important (if not disturbing) wake-up call to anyone out there who refuses to recognize that this sort of awful harassment goes on every single day.

Collapse
 
aspittel profile image
Ali Spittel

๐Ÿ’œ

Collapse
 
torianne02 profile image
Tori Crawford • Edited

This was such a difficult thing to read as a woman who has dealt with sexual harassment as well.

What makes me really upset is the screenshots are from essentially every platform (Twitter, Gmail, LinkedIn, etc.). A woman isn't safe from a man's unwanted passes on anything nowadays. It's ridiculous and I'm sorry that you have to deal with this nonsense. I applaud you for being so strong and continuing to create amazing content for those of us who love hearing and learning from you despite all this unwanted attention year after year. You are an amazing person, Ali. Don't let anyone ever let you think otherwise.

Collapse
 
aspittel profile image
Ali Spittel

โค๏ธ

Collapse
 
emmabostian profile image
Emma Bostian โœจ

Love you for posting this!

Collapse
 
aspittel profile image
Ali Spittel

โค๏ธ

Collapse
 
ridhwana profile image
Ridhwana Khan

Wow, I'm so sorry that all of this happened to you. These messages are appalling ๐Ÿ˜ž Nevertheless, you coded.... and you're doing amazingly!

Collapse
 
aspittel profile image
Ali Spittel

โค๏ธ

Collapse
 
xanderyzwich profile image
Corey McCarty • Edited

Did I just witness a seizure stroke amidst erotic role play? All of this is terrible, but I can't get that one out of my head. Not only is it absolutely disgusting to send that unsolicited, but I'm seriously concerned for the brain that strung those words together.

Collapse
 
aspittel profile image
Ali Spittel

He sent a different version of the erotica to one of my close friends too, so bizarre.

Collapse
 
xanderyzwich profile image
Corey McCarty

can we raise money to get all of these guys an intro to grammar book?

Thread Thread
 
pauladozsa profile image
Paula

more like an "intro to how to be a decent human being" book

Collapse
 
codemouse92 profile image
Jason C. McDonald

Ahh, the annual rogue's gallery of terrible comments. Thanks for posting this, as always. It's terrible that so many bigots exist...but at least you're able to turn them around and use them to educate the rest of the world that gender discrimination DOES exist today in tech.

Collapse
 
michaeltharrington profile image
Michael Tharrington

This is a seriously disappointing collection of disrespectful, demeaning, and downright gross comments. ๐Ÿ˜ž

Thanks for bringing this up and sharing your experience!

People really need to be reminded about the reality of what it's all too frequently like to work in this industry as a female developer. Thanks for persevering through this hate.

Collapse
 
jmfayard profile image
Jean-Michel Fayard ๐Ÿ‡ซ๐Ÿ‡ท๐Ÿ‡ฉ๐Ÿ‡ช๐Ÿ‡ฌ๐Ÿ‡ง๐Ÿ‡ช๐Ÿ‡ธ๐Ÿ‡จ๐Ÿ‡ด • Edited

Well well well.

If I was the author of one of those shameful messages, I would be really grateful that you took the time to blurry my name when you had the option to show my cowardice to the world. And I would contact you to say that I'm sorry and will try hard to not be stupid in the future.

And to the dudes working at Twitter, Reddit and other fake "social" platforms where this shit is endemic:

Hey guys, are you not embarassed to be part of this? What the fuck are you waiting for? Stop with the excuses. Voice your opinion internally until they do something. Or fire you. And then write about it.

Collapse
 
vickilanger profile image
Vicki Langer

๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿคข๐Ÿคฎ๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ข๐Ÿคฌ๐Ÿคฌ

Such an important thing to share. Why do people think this is okay?! I hope this will help show people this is a real thing that happens. Iโ€™m so sorry it happened at all.

Collapse
 
andy profile image
Andy Zhao (he/him)

Appreciate you sharing this โค๏ธ

Collapse
 
aspittel profile image
Ali Spittel

โค๏ธ

Collapse
 
yaser profile image
Yaser Al-Najjar

OMG!
The ugly side of humans... or non-humans ๐Ÿ˜ถ
I wish this never kills your motivation or (your why) to keep excelling.

Collapse
 
xananax profile image
Xananax

Holy potatoes. As a cis dude, I hear about that stuff and read a few examples here and there, which are already puzzling/disgusting/worrisome, but seeing such a volume laid out is something else.

I don't know how I would deal with this without seizures. Kudos for the resilience and managing to keep some faith in humanity.

Collapse
 
zubairmohsin33 profile image
Zubair Mohsin

More power to you Ali ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿป

Collapse
 
cydstumpel profile image
Cyd

It just goes on and on ๐Ÿ˜ข

Collapse
 
copperbeardy profile image
Davin Davies

common decency seems to be missing in the world of social media. sry to hear you and other people have to put up with these kinds of messages.

I hope you continue being you and don't let these people get at you.

Some comments may only be visible to logged-in visitors. Sign in to view all comments.