These messages are infuriating, disgusting, and awful.
I admire your strength for pushing on and inspiring so many others despite this constant stream of harassment. ๐
Thank you for sharing the ugly truth about what it means to be a prominent woman in tech. It's an important (if not disturbing) wake-up call to anyone out there who refuses to recognize that this sort of awful harassment goes on every single day.
This was such a difficult thing to read as a woman who has dealt with sexual harassment as well.
What makes me really upset is the screenshots are from essentially every platform (Twitter, Gmail, LinkedIn, etc.). A woman isn't safe from a man's unwanted passes on anything nowadays. It's ridiculous and I'm sorry that you have to deal with this nonsense. I applaud you for being so strong and continuing to create amazing content for those of us who love hearing and learning from you despite all this unwanted attention year after year. You are an amazing person, Ali. Don't let anyone ever let you think otherwise.
Lead Software Engineer at DEV/Forem. Passionate about building communities, learning/sharing & software engineering. Always looking to make a difference in this world ๐
Did I just witness a seizurestroke amidst erotic role play? All of this is terrible, but I can't get that one out of my head. Not only is it absolutely disgusting to send that unsolicited, but I'm seriously concerned for the brain that strung those words together.
I'm a friendly, non-dev, cisgender guy from NC who enjoys playing music/making noise, hiking, eating veggies, and hanging out with my best friend/wife + our 3 kitties + 1 greyhound.
This is a seriously disappointing collection of disrespectful, demeaning, and downright gross comments. ๐
Thanks for bringing this up and sharing your experience!
People really need to be reminded about the reality of what it's all too frequently like to work in this industry as a female developer. Thanks for persevering through this hate.
Ahh, the annual rogue's gallery of terrible comments. Thanks for posting this, as always. It's terrible that so many bigots exist...but at least you're able to turn them around and use them to educate the rest of the world that gender discrimination DOES exist today in tech.
Vicki, once a manager of aircraft maintenance, is now charming Python & Ruby. She has coded OpenGates.dev, #VetsWhoCode bot, Code Questions bot, & LGBTQ of the Day Bot. They love relatable writing.
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Self Taught Python/Ruby, BBA in Small Business Mgmt, AS in Production Mgmt
Such an important thing to share. Why do people think this is okay?! I hope this will help show people this is a real thing that happens. Iโm so sorry it happened at all.
One of the most salient features of our Tech Hiring culture is that there is so much bullshit. Everyone knows this. Each of us contributes his share. But we tend to take the situation for granted.
If I was the author of one of those shameful messages, I would be really grateful that you took the time to blurry my name when you had the option to show my cowardice to the world. And I would contact you to say that I'm sorry and will try hard to not be stupid in the future.
And to the dudes working at Twitter, Reddit and other fake "social" platforms where this shit is endemic:
Hey guys, are you not embarassed to be part of this? What the fuck are you waiting for? Stop with the excuses. Voice your opinion internally until they do something. Or fire you. And then write about it.
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These messages are infuriating, disgusting, and awful.
I admire your strength for pushing on and inspiring so many others despite this constant stream of harassment. ๐
Thank you for sharing the ugly truth about what it means to be a prominent woman in tech. It's an important (if not disturbing) wake-up call to anyone out there who refuses to recognize that this sort of awful harassment goes on every single day.
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Love you for posting this!
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This was such a difficult thing to read as a woman who has dealt with sexual harassment as well.
What makes me really upset is the screenshots are from essentially every platform (Twitter, Gmail, LinkedIn, etc.). A woman isn't safe from a man's unwanted passes on anything nowadays. It's ridiculous and I'm sorry that you have to deal with this nonsense. I applaud you for being so strong and continuing to create amazing content for those of us who love hearing and learning from you despite all this unwanted attention year after year. You are an amazing person, Ali. Don't let anyone ever let you think otherwise.
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Wow, I'm so sorry that all of this happened to you. These messages are appalling ๐ Nevertheless, you coded.... and you're doing amazingly!
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Did I just witness a
seizurestroke amidst erotic role play? All of this is terrible, but I can't get that one out of my head. Not only is it absolutely disgusting to send that unsolicited, but I'm seriously concerned for the brain that strung those words together.He sent a different version of the erotica to one of my close friends too, so bizarre.
can we raise money to get all of these guys an intro to grammar book?
more like an "intro to how to be a decent human being" book
This is a seriously disappointing collection of disrespectful, demeaning, and downright gross comments. ๐
Thanks for bringing this up and sharing your experience!
People really need to be reminded about the reality of what it's all too frequently like to work in this industry as a female developer. Thanks for persevering through this hate.
Ahh, the annual rogue's gallery of terrible comments. Thanks for posting this, as always. It's terrible that so many bigots exist...but at least you're able to turn them around and use them to educate the rest of the world that gender discrimination DOES exist today in tech.
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Such an important thing to share. Why do people think this is okay?! I hope this will help show people this is a real thing that happens. Iโm so sorry it happened at all.
Well well well.
If I was the author of one of those shameful messages, I would be really grateful that you took the time to blurry my name when you had the option to show my cowardice to the world. And I would contact you to say that I'm sorry and will try hard to not be stupid in the future.
And to the dudes working at Twitter, Reddit and other fake "social" platforms where this shit is endemic:
Appreciate you sharing this โค๏ธ
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