loading...
Cover image for Letter to Myself Ten Years Ago

Letter to Myself Ten Years Ago

ilonacodes profile image Ilona Dee Codes ・2 min read

Inspired by the viral 10-year challenge on social media, when people show the world what they looked like 10 years ago, I decided not to share my photos of that time.

Why?

Because there was nothing to be proud of. Just an overweight teenager from a small town in Ukraine, with a fixed mindset and no goals in life.

With lots of complexes, fear to make mistakes and to be judged by others.

And...

With big dreams and huge ambitions to change her life at that moment.

Looking back at myself in the past, I created a list of hints which I would give her 10 years ago.

So that!

I want to share with you, my readers. Perhaps, this list would be helpful for you to avoid the mistakes I did.

You are an individual

You have your opinions, your own interests, and your personality.
It doesn't matter what others think about you and what they say is better for you. You are unique. Don't compare yourself to others.

Prove yourself to yourself—not others. And follow your dreams.

Read books

Now you have time for that and a lot of time. It will bring many benefits for you like increases verbal and writing skills, will help to articulate your thoughts and will enhance the most essential ability: problem-solving skills through training the brain to think in sequence and to link cause.

Loneliness is priceless

Enjoy it, because in a while, in adult life you will not have that amount of time to know yourself better.

Take care of yourself

Every day for a happier mind and body.

Your body and mind are the most valuable assets. To get through each day and succeed in life both need to be kept in good shape. You want to enjoy life and focus on goals instead of your illness.

Avoid toxic people

This is a kind of people who might resent your progress and achievements and judge you for any reason. Perhaps, they think you will be no longer in their life if you improve yourself too much.

Just stay confident and own your own faults and the things that make you shine. Cut toxic people from your life.

Conclusion

Despite all, I cannot say that I was a bad person or regret about lots of things, in general, I have done or haven't. It's life, and it's normal to screw up and learn from own failures.

I always keep in mind that everything could be changed apart from death. Take your destiny into your own hands and build your life from scratch.

What would you tell yourself 10 years ago? What advice would you give to yourself in the past? Do you have any regrets about anything?

I am so curious to read your story and know what is changed from that moment.


Photo by Mikito Tateisi on Unsplash

Discussion

pic
Editor guide
Collapse
goyo profile image
Grzegorz Ziemonski

Dear past me,

Stop playing computer games and start doing something productive!

Thanks,
Future me

Collapse
derickhess profile image
Derick Hess

Dear past me,
Play more computer games. You'll be fine

Collapse
chrisvasqm profile image
Christian Vasquez

My mind is telling me no... but my body.... MY BOOOODY IS TELLING ME YE-YEAAAH!

Collapse
ilonacodes profile image
Ilona Dee Codes Author

Oh, yeah 😅I feel you. I also played lots of computer games in the past 🤦‍♀️

Collapse
damnjan profile image
Damnjan Jovanovic

It is a great post and a good topic. I believe this what you wrote is the only true comparison individual should go through.
You should not compare your self with other people or their achievements, but you should definitely compare you and ’yesterday you’. This method is the only one which brings you true numbers, real achievements and of course feedback on you.

Collapse
ilonacodes profile image
Ilona Dee Codes Author

You are so right! Today we should be a better version of ourselves than yesterday 🙂

Collapse
phlash909 profile image
Phil Ashby

Very well put Ilona, and quite similar to the philosophy I ask my children to think about:

  • know yourself (you are an individual / loneliness is priceless) - it's who you are, not what you do / who you know.
  • support yourself (read! take care of yourself / avoid toxic people) - take the confidence in who you are and make a life for yourself.
  • support others - relationships matter (they build worlds), everyone is your equal (golden rule), everyone has something to learn (your own children perhaps?) . Also for the brave: go back to toxic people, they need you too!
Collapse
ilonacodes profile image
Ilona Dee Codes Author

Thank you 🙂Excellent points to think about 👍I wish my parents did the same when I was a child.

Collapse
dechamp profile image
DeChamp

Great post, I love this! I recently posted about some of my fears and insecurities and how I needed to over come them. I really like that you just laid it out simply on how to improve. Thanks for sharing!

Collapse
ilonacodes profile image
Ilona Dee Codes Author

You're welcome! I will check out your post 🙂

Collapse
madhadron profile image
Fred Ross

Thinking back, I would say:

Be gentle. You can be kind, caring, and helpful, but still not gentle, and people will come to you and like you, but still be afraid of you, which is hard on them. Be gentle, too.

Drop out of grad school sooner rather than later. If you don't have a clear path straight to the PhD in the next two to three years and an advisor who's getting people through that hurdle in a timely, orderly manner, the opportunity cost is too high.

Some people are okay living alone. I am not one of them. Some people are okay working in intellectual isolation. I am also not one of them.

Collapse
ilonacodes profile image
Ilona Dee Codes Author

Thank you for your words! Great thoughts! 👍

Collapse
andreasjakof profile image
Andreas Jakof

Hi younger me,

2009 will be hard and at some point you might not know, how to go on, but you will make it.

You will marry the love of your life, but PLEASE ... when you have that Ring, wait for the right moment before you propose. I know you cannot wait any longer, but there is no need to rush this. She‘ll say yes anyway, but that will not be last you hear about it. 😳🥺

Otherwise, even when it does not seem like it sometimes, it will work out at the end.

Collapse
rachelsoderberg profile image
Rachel Soderberg

I would tell myself:
It's totally okay to not know what you want to do as an "adult" yet. The people who tell you to hurry are wrong, you're crazy intelligent and in time you'll find yourself and be successful.

Collapse
pavlosisaris profile image
Paul Isaris

It takes courage to write a letter like this and it definitely shows some mental maturity. Keep up the good work and be awesome! ;)

Collapse
ilonacodes profile image
Ilona Dee Codes Author

Thanks a lot! I'll do my best 🙂

Collapse
thamaraiselvam profile image
Thamaraiselvam

Thanks for sharing <3

Collapse
phoinixi profile image
Francesco Esposito

Thank you for sharing this!

Collapse
ilonacodes profile image
Ilona Dee Codes Author

You are welcome! 🙂

Collapse
chrisvasqm profile image
Christian Vasquez

"Because there was nothing to be proud of. Just an overweight teenager from a small town in Ukraine, with a fixed mindset and no goals in life."

And just like that, you got my follow!

Collapse
idrisdiba profile image
Idris Diba

Hi,your arlicle is inspiring. if i may ask, going forward in terms of developement,Which language are you proficient in or framework?
Thank you.

Collapse
ilonacodes profile image
Ilona Dee Codes Author

Thank you! 🙈JavaScript + ReactJS library