How do Freelancers deal with poor mental health conditions?

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On #WorldMentalHealthDay, how do all of the freelancers deal with clients who are so overbearing they start effecting your health, mental and physical; your work, and your relationships? Anything from coping mechanisms to legal routes. And GO!

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Work yourself to the condition you are able to drop them. Your mental health is far more important.

I did it in September with a specific client, giving ample notice (more than double the notice stipulated in the contract) and I haven't felt better in months. Not just because of the initial relief but because I also realized that I was justifying things about my behavior in response to the environment that weren't healthy to begin with. I've also been asked to stay on for an indefinite amount of time as a possible problem solver for a day a week in case they needed me but I replied with a flat out no. I needed to sever that cord.

Also consider speaking to a professional if you can afford it, especially if you're dealing with multiple issues you can't seem to be able to juggle by yourself.

Therapy is so underrated by people like us that are supposed to be pros in knowledge working that... well don't let me get started :D. I can't find it now but I read a tweet yesterday that said something like: "pro athletes train their bodies everyday with coaches to deliver high intensity performances, when's the last time that a professional in tech trained his mind with a professional?"

Hope this helps. Take care Matt!


Take my advice with a huge grain of salt, as I am not a freelancer.

Isn't it possible to drop clients that have an effect on your well-being and mental health? At the end of the day, a job is about enhancing your life. Whether that's through the money earned, or from the satisfaction you get from making something. If your job is making you unhappy, it's on you to change it. That includes dumping crappy clients.


Save your money. Save your money. Save your money. Invest as much as you possibly can, and start collecting those quarterly dividends. Cook as many meals as possible at home. Drive less. Carefully scrutinize even the smallest of transactions. $10 matters when you're building wealth for a lifetime.

My mental health comes from knowing that I only "need" to make a certain amount of money each year. Anything beyond that is gravy. As I keep investing more and more money, I track that number in a spreadsheet. I watch it go down. It feels fantastic.

It also helps to have a clear backup plan for what you'll do if things go south. It can be as simple as telling yourself you'll take up tutoring or go into something non-software-related while in between clients. Even a small paid gig will help get you out of the house and interacting with other human beings. Knowing you have the financial security to do it will melt the stress away.

There's nothing quite like being on a project where everyone's stressed out to the max but you're cool as a cucumber because you know you don't actually need the money. Let them freak out. That's not your ship. You don't operate that way. You save your money because you know the entire point of having money is to avoid worrying about money.


I've been a freelancer for a couple of years, and although most of my customers have been really nice I've had two customers that are very exhausting.

Unless there is a contract that prevents you. I'd say the best way to fix problems with clients that affect your health is to search, and find another client to work for. Take the chance to get out if you find the opportunity. If you are professional about it and give your current client notice in advance, you'll leave without damaging your reputation.

I just jumped into a new 4 month contract to get out of a tiresome long term contract.

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