I wanted to work at a startup in a very specific way. Small team, high ownership, real responsibility, learning by doing. I recently joined one as part of the founding team, and it is exactly the kind of place I was looking for.
What I did not fully understand before joining was not the idea of startup life, but the texture of it. The way pressure shows up quietly. The way responsibility expands without anyone explicitly asking. The way learning and urgency arrive bundled together, making it hard to tell where one ends and the other begins.
This is not a regret post. I am learning things here that I would not learn in a slower, more protected environment. How systems actually break. How decisions propagate. How ownership feels when there is no buffer. I know this kind of exposure pays off over time.
At the same time, value does not automatically mean sustainability.
That is the question I am sitting with right now. Not whether I should be here, but how people who have been here before learned to last. What they learned to protect early. How they told the difference between growth and erosion. What boundaries mattered even when everything felt urgent. What quietly paid off, and what did not.
For now, I am trying to stay attentive rather than reactive. Noticing when learning feels energizing versus draining. When urgency is real versus inherited. When I am acting out of intention versus momentum. I am still showing up fully and leaning in, but I want to do it without burning parts of myself that take longer to rebuild.
I wanted startup life, and I got it. Now I am trying to learn how people hold up here, not just how they start.
If you have been in a similar place before, I would genuinely appreciate hearing what you would tell your younger self at this stage.
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You got the new job you wanted. Congratulations! Good news to start a good new year. I hope you do well in your new job.👍
Thanks! Still trying to get used to this environment... Any advice on how do I keep my spirits up in low pay + workload situation?
Startup life can be tough, but you can learn a lot really fast. Focus on your growth, and don’t forget to take care of yourself too.🫡
Thanks! I will!
Oh also, I texted you on X. Looking forward to hearing back soon.
This really resonated with me. The way you described the texture of startup life—quiet pressure, expanding responsibility, urgency mixed with learning—is so accurate and rarely talked about.
I appreciate that you’re not questioning whether the experience is valuable, but whether it’s sustainable. That distinction feels important. Staying attentive instead of reactive, and learning to tell growth from erosion, is a mindset many people only arrive at after burnout.
Wishing you clarity as you navigate this phase—and thank you for putting words to something a lot of us feel but struggle to articulate.
Thank you! I’m currently running on vibes and optimism, oscillating between "I am a god of productivity" and "I want to delete my LinkedIn and move to a farm."
You can really boost both hard skills and soft skills at a startup. Don't forget about work life balance. In startups, you can take on too much workload, don't be afraid to divide responsibilities and clarify priorities when you feel that you are doing too much work.
Set boundaries when you're working on tasks. Don't be distracted by meetings or texting, when possible. Don't be afraid to say you're busy. Try to choose tasks that interest you. Suggest architecture for features. This way, you'll get the most out of your work with startups.
Noted good sir! Thank you!
Many developers want startup life for the autonomy and rapid learning, but often don’t fully grasp how responsibility, pressure, and ambiguity come bundled together until they’re actually in it.
This was such an insightful post especially for someone like me who's wanting to build startups. Please feel free to share more of this experience. It will be really helpful...also congratulations!!!
That's amazing, would definitely like to know more about your ideas sometime! And yes I will share more posts as I grow into this role.
Thank you!
Thanks!
Congratulations! Good news!
Thank you!
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