How to use your network to get a job

Common advice for job seekers is to "use your network" but what does that mean, exactly? Let's break it down.

In 2025, job referrals are everything

As a hiring manager, I got hundreds of applicants within 24 hours of posting a new job. Most of the applications were AI slop. Recruiters and managers are overwhelmed.

A personalized referral from someone you know will get you further with a hiring manager than the perfect resume.

Use your network to get referrals. By network, I mean people you already have a relationship with, who can vouch for your awesome work.

Going to meetups to chat up strangers who are probably also job seeking is likely not the highest-value use of your time.

How to ask for referrals

People want to help you. But first, you need to ask. To the LinkedIn mobile, Batman.

1. Identify jobs that are a good fit with what you're seeking.
2. Do some LinkedIn snooping to see if anyone you know works at those companies.
3. Write those people a quick message asking if they'd be comfortable referring you.

Isn't it weird to ask for a favor when you haven't seen someone in years?

In a professional context, it's totally okay to message an old co-worker you haven't talked to since 2019 and ask for a referral.

Example note to ask for a referral

Hi Tilde!

Long time no see, hope you're doing well.

I saw that LaunchDarkly is hiring for a Backend Engineer, Metrics. [INSERT LINK TO SPECIFIC POSTING]. I have 2 years of experience working on Go backends in my previous company. Would you mind referring me for this role? My resume is attached. Thanks so much!

What works about this letter:

• It's brief
• It specifies why you're a good fit for the role
• It includes all the information needed to make the referral. Nobody has time for a scavenger hunt.

Caveats

Using your network is much harder for early-career engineers. There are many less junior positions available than there used to be. Also, juniors generally have smaller networks to begin with.

Norms vary geographically. I've seen this approach work in North America and European companies. Outside those zones, your mileage may vary.

Parting thoughts

The best time to grow your network is before you need it. If you are currently employed, take the time to celebrate your teammates' wins. Ask people how they are doing. Talk about the excellent work you are doing. Smash that connect button on LinkedIn. Small actions pay off over time in the long run.

The job market is incredibly tough, but people want to help. Go forth and ask.

P.S. LaunchDarkly is hiring.