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My colleague leaves brutal and rude feedback when reviewing my code. Just, imho, intense and unnecessary, and definitely unprofessional. This feedback is given on a fairly recurring basis, and I don't think I can stand much more of it. How do I bring this up to them in a way that’s effective and professional, and how can I get this behavior to stop?
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Notice that this is a very unhealthy work environment. Ideally you should start job hunting and find a place that's good for you. A mentor can help you with that as well.
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Notice that this is a very unhealthy work environment. Ideally you should start job hunting and find a place that's good for you. A mentor can help you with that as well.
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I agree. It's VERY unhealthy and might leave you dissatisfied as well...
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One of the tricks is to find a bigger bully or bigger mentor. estrenosdoramas
Ideally you should start job hunting and find a place that's good for you doramasflix
Maybe it would be better to confront the person and if he starts being rude escalate to your manager.
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One thing to consider in the approach is to bring concrete examples.
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My condolences when you have such a colleague, anyway, you should listen, analyze and find out, whether the reflection is true? stand in the position of always listening and changing, but if not, you can meet and speak in person. I think it is stickman boost.
Personally I'd handle it by critiquing their comments: "Thanks for the feedback. In the future, can you try to keep the comments relevant to the changes made? I'd me more than happy to discuss your opinions on
some nitpick that he was rude aboutbut a pull request is probably not the forum for this.You mentioned that
insert weakest argument he made here. I would love to do your suggestion ofpoorest suggestion, however consideringxis a major factor I don't see how this suggestion solves this.Keep it professional and document his instances of being rude.
Yes, you probably should:
Escalate this to their manager if it would be helpful. Note, only do this if their manager is not a bully.
Start to look for another job if things don't improve soon.
I can't see the example of brutal / rude feedback here. But I have two assumptions based on the thread:
If you are experiencing no. 1 it's no the other way around to stay patient and find another place that might have a better environment with clear policy. Wait until you sure that your new place is your new comfortable home.
If you are experiencing no.2 please discuss with him that you can't follow up his feedback because it's too intense and overwhelming. Or if you find some his/her feedback are not worth to read. Just skip that part and give your best value to him. Skipping unnecessary feedback on PR review is not a sin.
Whether you are experiencing no. 1 or no. 2 you have to communicate it to your manager (team lead, engineering manager, HR, etc.)
I feel that you are experiencing toxic culture. It's might be exists everywhere. You are just need to aware of this situation and find right and trusted colleague to share your bad experience and finally cope that issue.
As an additional, you can tell your HR. Your mental health is also matter. You are precious than rude feedback from your colleague.
You might read this article if you are available: developerexperience.io/problems/to...
Hope everything will be better for you.
I am also dealing with bully worker as the worker is on lead side of things and the BULLY is friend of the CEO of startup while I am an introvert worker who is shifting to WFO from WFH ( pre-covid ). He is such a bully even when I said he is blocking my tickets as I was on UI side and he was on backend side; he started calling me and started lashing out ( saying mean words and in a rude tone ). I am thinking to leave the company but purchasing power in my city is already so low, can't leave Job right at the moment.
So I feel you bruh they are always bad apples which heart us polite and loyal workers.
There is this exercise you can do, which will simply get rid of the problem.
You can do it once, or a couple of times until "the problem" goes away.
There are variations that you can do also.
My secret:
Lift your shoulders up to your ears, and lower them again.
variation 1: lift your arms up too
variation 2: say "Huh" while lifting the shoulders
variation 3: combine 1 & 2
You can learn from each comment people make, as long as the play ball and not the person. If it's the other way around, make them see.
(and of course, there's always a vinegar pisser somewhere; they can't help themselves)