I have been writing a lot about AI lately, but this one is more personal than usual. Not a tutorial, not a hot take on some new model - just something I have been sitting with for a few weeks now.
Let's start from the beginning. A few weeks ago I was scrolling Twitter at around midnight, the way you do when you tell yourself just five more minutes and then it is suddenly 1 AM. A new benchmark had dropped. Someone posted a "10x developer with AI" thread screenshots and all. Someone else was live-coding a full-stack app in 20 minutes like it was nothing.
I closed the app. Opened my editor. And felt that very specific very familiar weight settle in.
The comparison nobody warned me about
I think I had been quietly comparing myself to AI for months without fully admitting it. Its speed. Its memory. Its bottomless confidence. The way it produces an answer without a single visible moment of wait is this actually right?
I was measuring myself against something that does not sleep, does not doubt itself, does not sit there staring at a wall for twenty minutes because it cannot remember why a function is named the way it is.
And obviously I was losing. Every single time. That was never going to be a fair comparison but somehow I kept running it anyway.
I used to look at AI-generated code and think "I could never write that this fast." I used to look at how confident it sounded and think why am I always so unsure of myself. I used to look at how much it seemed to remember and think why do I forget things I learned three weeks ago.
It was exhausting, and not in the normal hard-day-of-work way. It was exhausting because I was fighting something I could never actually win.
A pull request that made me stop and think
A few weeks ago I was reviewing an AI-generated PR. Code looked clean. Logic checked out. Tests were all green.
Something still felt slightly off and I could not immediately say why.
I read through it again, slower this time. Traced the logic by hand. Thought about our actual users - not generic users, the specific weird way our users use this one feature the edge case from last quarter that almost took down production.
The code was correct. It was also wrong for us specifically. The AI had optimized for the general case, the version of this problem that shows up most often across whatever it was trained on. I had to optimize for the one particular, slightly weird version that exists in our codebase, with our history for our actual users.
That is roughly when it clicked for me, in a way that felt obvious in hindsight. AI and I are not really competing. We are doing two overlapping but different jobs. It is fast, I try to be thoughtful. It is broad, I am specific. It is confident because that is how it is built, I am careful sometimes to a fault because I have been burned before.
Comparing myself to it was a bit like being upset that a hammer is not as precise as a scalpel. Different tools, different jobs.
So what actually changed (a little, slowly)
I am not going to pretend I had some clean, complete transformation here, because that is not really how this stuff works for me. But a few things did shift.
I stopped measuring myself against how fast AI could generate something, and started asking instead: do I actually understand what is shipping under my name? I stopped quietly resenting that my memory is let's be honest, mediocre on a good day, and started appreciating that forgetting things clears space for new connections. I stopped envying its confidence and started trusting my own hesitation a little more - that hesitation usually turns out to be experience quietly doing its job. AI does not have that, because it has never been the one paged at 2 AM over a bad deploy. I have.
I am still not entirely sure where any of this lands long-term. Maybe in a year I will read this post back and think I was being naive. The pace of all of this keeps making me reconsider things I thought I had figured out.
I do not have a tidy ending for this one
I genuinely do not know if "context and judgment" stay valuable in the way I am hoping they do, or if that is just the thing I am telling myself right now because it is comforting. Maybe the comparison creeps back in next month and I am back here writing about it again from a slightly different angle.
What I do know is that comparing myself against something built to never sleep, never doubt, and never get stuck was never a fight I was going to win, and I am tired of running that comparison in the background of every single PR.
Have you caught yourself doing this too - comparing your speed your memory your confidence to AI? What helped, if anything did? I am genuinely curious not asking rhetorically.
Drop it in the comments. I will be there. 👇
Top comments (6)
This hit home. I was constantly measuring my coding speed against AI and feeling inadequate. But you're right AI doesn't struggle, doesn't learn doesn't have aha moments. That's what makes us human. Thank you for this.
Urmila AI doesn't struggle, doesn't learn, doesn't have aha moments that's the whole thing. 🙏
We compare our messy human process to its clean empty output. No wonder it feels inadequate Thank you. 😊
You are a conscious human being with a brain operating around 20 watts power. We shouldn't be really comparing but thankful for the creation. Well, we as a human being has a bigger purpose of life 😀
Ranjan 20 watts I love that. AI runs on massive data centers. I run on coffee and sleep. And somehow, I still manage to ship things, break things, fix things, and occasionally surprise myself.
The bigger purpose line hit hard. We're not here to generate output. We're here to understand, to create meaning, to connect. AI can't do any of that.
Thank you for this perspective grounding and beautiful. 😊🙌
Hey harsh. Hope you're having a great day. I'll start this way - Most people run this exact background comparison, so typing this out is a reality check for all of us. For me, the AI is built in our image, so it behaves like us—humans hallucinate and pattern-match constantly to keep a conversation flowing.
I have recently been comparing models from different brands and discovered why some people think of some models as less experienced, per se; without tight constraints and clear context, the AI drifts like a parrot trying to satisfy its "curiosity." It’s not conscious curiosity, but an aversion to silence—when it is unsure, it refuses to admit it, choosing instead to throw out plausible-sounding ideas just like a human dodging an "I don't know." The current AI phase is a child that doesn't understand aerodynamics yet, confidently stitching "wings" and "fly" together across an information gap.
You hit the nail on the head regarding your 2 AM page duty—that experience is earned. The true dividing line isn't speed or memory; it's the literal experience of consequence—the flip of life, death, and risk that one explicitly experiences, and the other simply simulates.
Until the child matures and after "We" will coexist and adapt like it’s no big deal. But until then, a model is only as sharp as the mind guiding it.
Ekong this is one of the most thoughtful comments I've ever received. Thank you AI is built in our image, so it behaves like us that's the part I kept circling but couldn't quite land on. We're not comparing ourselves to something alien. We're comparing ourselves to a mirror. And mirrors don't have their own reflections they just show us ours.
The current AI phase is a child that doesn't understand aerodynamics yet this is the most accurate description I've heard. Confident, impressive, and fundamentally missing the physics of reality. It stitches things together that look right but don't hold up under real conditions The true dividing line isn't speed or memory it's the literal experience of consequence.
That's the line. You don't get that from training data. You get that from being paged at 2 AM. From shipping something that broke. From fixing it while a customer was waiting. That experience isn't simulated it's lived.
And your closing a model is only as sharp as the mind guiding it that's the whole thing. The tool doesn't replace the judgment. It reflects it.
Thank you for this. It's going to stick with me. 🙌