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Jess Lee
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Are most of your friends developers too?

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Jonathan Silvestri

Pretty even mix of devs and non-devs.

My non-dev friends at this point are mostly my college friends whom I was incredibly close with.

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Ayja Weems

Most of my friends are not devs, we’re all into very different things and on separate career paths. I am starting to network and make more dev friends though, so anyone can feel free to chat with me!

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Ben Halpern

For most of my life: no.

I've almost never had dev friends, but these days I'm making a lot more friends in the space, usually because I met them through DEV 😄

I think if I had more dev friends I'd never have felt the urge to create a more welcoming space. I always felt like I had a hard time breaking into the software "cliques". And if I had a hard time with that, folks from underrepresented backgrounds face greatly steeper challenges.

I've always had fairly nerdy friends, and some of those relationships helped nudge me into software one way or the other, but nobody actually really wrote code.

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Tyler V.

This basically sums up what my response was going to be 😅

I love all my new Dev/Twitter friends though💜

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Gift Egwuenu

Yes. I've gotten to meet a couple of new friends since I became more active in my community and I also have non-dev friends I think I like the mix.

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Ben Halpern

Mix is key. It's great to escape into a world where nobody has APIs on their mind 😄

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Stephen Belovarich

No. I have some and we talk shop, but it’s great to have friends apart from work life.

Late 30s me is like “Where’d all the friends go? That’s right they had kids. But wait my parents had kids and still invited friends over for dinner, went out and did things.” 🤷‍♂️

Sometimes the people you mentor end up becoming a friend.

Sometimes the people you’d least expect become a friend. I’m honestly looking for more of this type right now living in a country where things are so divisive.

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Max Ong Zong Bao

Nope, not by a long shot my close friends are not even developers. Some of them are people I met during youth events or youth startup communities I was helping out in my country.

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Yechiel Kalmenson

Most of my friends from my pre-development days are not developers (with the exception of one of my friends who sort of mentored me when I was transitioning).

But of course I've since made many new friends in the developer community, largely thanks to communities like CodeNewbie and the DEV community 🤗

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Matthew Daly

I didn't become a professional developer till my early 30's. Most of my friends are therefore non-developers I know from previous jobs, and a few school friends.

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bleskop stevens

What friends?

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Jean-Michel Plourde

No. I only have one friend who's in dev and he lives in another province. Living in a semi-rural area means most of my close friends/family are working manual jobs (mech, factory, driving, etc.)

Fortunately, people at my job and classmates are dev, so I can talk about new things with them.